The children we lead in our homes are looking to us, and listening in on how we handle this subject in our everyday lives. Whether you have a child that is a part of the LGBTQ+ community or not, we want to provide you with resources that will help you keep the conversation going in an appropriate and meaningful way.

General Resources

We believe that every family is unique and valued by God. At Eikon Church, we want to do our very best to honor the family culture of each child entrusted to our care. While our NextGen team is dedicated to promoting and facilitating an inclusive environment for all of our children, we will never dictate to a child what they should believe spiritually about those in the LGBTQ+ community. We have included links to children’s books or videos that discuss gender identity and/or sexual orientation in each age-appropriate section below for your convenience. We would love to partner with you in any way we can as you engage in these conversations with your child(ren)!

Here are some resources to help you along the way:

For Parents Of Preschoolers:

This age group is only able to understand simple and concrete answers to questions. When answering, use language your child understands. Try to only address the specific question asked, without giving any further details. (For example, if your child asks why their friend from school has two mommies, you can say, “Families can be different. Some families have a mom and a dad. Some have two moms or two dads. Some have only one mom or one dad.”)

Here are more resources to help you along the way:

For Parents Of Children In Elementary School:

Children at this age are beginning to explore and understand who they are in the world. As their questions about gender and sex become more complex and concrete, so should your answers.

For example, your child may witness bullying of other classmates, and come to you for advice on how to respond. This is an opening to reinforce the value of treating others with respect. (I.e., Your child tells you, “Tiffany cut her hair short and all the other kids were teasing her. Does that mean she’s a boy?” You could reply, “Having short hair does not make you a girl or a boy. How did you feel when you saw the other kids teasing her?”)

Here are more resources to help you along the way:

For Parents Of Teenagers:

As children become teenagers, not only does their sexual orientation become apparent; their friends’ will too. Your children might ask questions as some of their classmates begin to be more open about their gender identities or sexual orientation. Teens may be using this conversation as a way to feel out your reaction to their friend’s “coming out.” However, also use this opportunity to really listen to how teens think and feels about LGBT people.

Try to limit any judgments about things you don’t understand or don’t agree with. For example, if your child tells you that his friend is gay, ask what his thoughts and feelings are about it first before expressing your opinions.

Here are more resources to help you along the way:

Thursday, January 2, 2020 by Amanda Martinez