Each of us brings gifts into each relationship that the other person doesn’t. Likewise, the other person in each relationship brings gifts into it that you don’t. 1 Peter 4:10 reminds us that we should be good stewards of God’s grace as we use each unique gifting. If you haven’t yet, take the Enneagram test to discover your type. Instead of focusing on the weaknesses of your number, focus on the strengths. Seek God in prayer for ways that you can express His grace to others through your strengths. Plan out a few things this week that you can put into action as you walk out His loving grace towards others and do them!
The Enneagram gives us a tool not just for how to see others in the world, but the lens through which WE see the world. If you are an Enneagram 8, 9, or 1, your ‘go-to’ emotion is anger, especially when things get tough, get frustrating, or don’t go your way. James 1:19-20 gives us a useful guide for how to manage anger. Take on a challenge this week to pause and practice mindful breathing before marinating in anger. Make it a priority to listen and process before you respond. Ask the Lord, in prayer, to help you work through the angry emotions and to empower you with grace-filled peace as you move forward.
Looking through the lens of the Enneagram makes it possible to understand ourselves and others better, increase our acceptance and compassion, and navigate the paths between us. The internalized emotion of an Enneagram 2, 3, or 4 is shame. Psalm 34:4-5 gives hope and a way forward when faced with thoughts and feelings of shame. If you or someone you know is struggling with shame, reach out and check on them. Authentically encourage and empower them. Pray with and for them to find strength, courage, and truth in Jesus to help them overcome the shame that rages inside.
We all want to belong, and we all want our lives to have meaning, but it’s not always easy to step out and let others get to know our true selves. No one understands this more than the Enneagram 5s, 6s, and 7s. Though you may never see it on the surface, their internal emotion is fear, and it drives the majority of their thoughts and actions. Think about yourself or friends that exemplify one of these Enneagram types. Now, take action and make Psalm 56:3-4 the prayer that you pray either for yourself or others. Send an Enneagram 5, 6 or 7 an encouraging text this week as they continue pursuing courage and fullness in life!
The more you know about yourself and the nature of others, the more you’re able to cultivate empathy and understanding. It’s easy to focus on ourself, but something compelling happens when we look up and out at others to discover their personality and history. 1 Peter 4:8 challenges us to love others—which means we must learn to understand them. Think about someone who you may have a hard time understanding. Invite them over for lunch or coffee and let them share about their life journey. If they don’t know their Enneagram type, help them take the test and invite them to join you at church this Sunday!